The ‘Child-Like’ Perception of People with ADHD: How It Leads to Being Undermined and Underestimated

Adults with ADHD often bring enthusiasm, creativity, and a unique perspective to the table. However, their neurodivergent traits can sometimes lead others to misinterpret their personality and capabilities. A common misconception is that people with ADHD are “child-like” or naive, leading to them being seen as less authoritative, which can result in being underestimated or undermined in professional and personal settings. This stereotype not only affects their confidence but also limits opportunities and may prevent their talents from being fully recognised.

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Why People with ADHD Are Perceived as ‘Child-Like’ or Naive

The traits associated with ADHD can sometimes contribute to a perception of innocence, impulsivity, and wonder that may come across as child-like. This perception, though often inaccurate, is tied to specific ADHD traits, including:

  1. Enthusiasm and Excitability
    Many people with ADHD exhibit high levels of enthusiasm and expressiveness, especially when they’re interested in something. This genuine excitement can be refreshing but is sometimes misinterpreted as immaturity or naivety. In professional settings, where subdued or “serious” demeanor is often valued, enthusiasm can be mistakenly seen as a lack of depth or sophistication.
  2. Impulsivity and Spontaneity
    ADHD often involves impulsivity, leading individuals to speak or act without much filtering. This spontaneity can be seen as a lack of self-control or as a failure to “think things through,” giving others the impression that they are careless or lack judgment. This misinterpretation can lead people to see individuals with ADHD as less credible or reliable, even when their actions stem from genuine passion and a quick-thinking mind.
  3. Curiosity and Openness to New Ideas
    People with ADHD are often highly curious and open-minded, traits that can be viewed as unconventional or even “immature” in environments where adherence to tradition or hierarchy is valued. Their willingness to question norms and suggest new approaches, while innovative, may be misinterpreted as a lack of respect for established methods or as an indication of inexperience.
  4. Directness and Transparency
    ADHD individuals are often refreshingly honest and transparent in their communication, a trait that is sometimes misinterpreted as naivety. They may openly express confusion or ask questions that others might avoid out of fear of seeming uninformed. While this directness is often beneficial for problem-solving, it can lead others to assume that the individual lacks sophistication or professional decorum.

The Impact of These Perceptions on People with ADHD

The perception of ADHD individuals as “child-like” or naive can lead to significant personal and professional consequences. Here are some of the main ways these misconceptions impact their lives:

  1. Being Undermined and Not Taken Seriously
    People with ADHD are often dismissed or overlooked when it comes to serious matters or leadership roles. This tendency to undermine their input or authority can prevent them from fully contributing their ideas or leading projects. Colleagues may ignore their suggestions, question their decisions, or over-explain tasks, assuming that the ADHD individual cannot handle complexity or responsibility.
  2. Lack of Opportunities for Career Advancement
    In professional settings, the perception of being less authoritative or naive can hinder career advancement. Individuals with ADHD may find themselves passed over for promotions or leadership roles because decision-makers wrongly assume they lack the maturity, focus, or consistency required for higher-level positions. This bias not only stalls career growth but also stifles the individual’s potential.
  3. Feelings of Inadequacy and Self-Doubt
    When individuals with ADHD are constantly treated as though they are less capable or knowledgeable, it can lead to self-doubt. Being undermined repeatedly can take a toll on confidence, leading to feelings of inadequacy or imposter syndrome. Over time, these experiences can damage self-esteem and make it challenging for individuals with ADHD to advocate for themselves (and self-advocating is already challenging for people with ADHD).
  4. Increased Anxiety and Pressure to Conform
    Facing constant underestimation can lead individuals with ADHD to feel pressured to conform to conventional behaviors or mask their personality traits to be taken seriously. This pressure to “fit in” can be exhausting, causing anxiety and limiting the individual’s ability to work authentically. In extreme cases, this can even lead to “neurotypical masking,” where the person feels compelled to hide their ADHD-related traits, a habit that is draining and often unsustainable.
  5. Being Excluded from Important Conversations or Decisions
    People with ADHD may find themselves excluded from key discussions or decisions because they are perceived as inexperienced or lacking authority. This exclusion can prevent them from accessing valuable information or influencing outcomes that impact their work, further limiting their contributions and reinforcing the cycle of underestimation.

How We Can Combat Stereotypes and Create a More Inclusive Environment

Changing the perception of people with ADHD requires a collective effort to challenge stereotypes, value neurodivergence, and promote inclusivity in all areas of society. Here are some steps that can help:

  1. ADHD Awareness Training
    Providing ADHD training in workplaces and training for educational institutions can help others understand the unique strengths and challenges associated with ADHD. Training encourages colleagues, teachers, and supervisors to appreciate ADHD traits and see beyond stereotypes, creating a more accepting and supportive environment.
  2. Focusing on Strengths
    Emphasising the strengths of ADHD, such as creativity, drive, and innovative thinking, can help shift perceptions from “child-like” or naive to capable and valuable. Recognising the distinctive contributions that people with ADHD make can pave the way for greater understanding and respect.
  3. Encouraging Authenticity and Valuing Diverse Perspectives
    Allowing individuals with ADHD to express themselves authentically, without pressure to mask their traits, benefits everyone by embracing a range of perspectives. Valuing neurodivergence and treating ADHD individuals as people who think differently, which has advantages, creates a more inclusive and enriching environment for all.